The three most important Love Rules to remember are: Stop, Look, and Listen.

Stop.

Stop focusing on what you don’t have and bring what you do have into view. You have attributes, talents, and abilities unique to you. Think about what they are and showcase them. The same goes for your appearance. Enhance and appreciate your good features, polish up what you have, and let go of any inner critical remarks that pass negative judgment on you.

Look.

Look at what you do to your self esteem when you act like a judgment machine. Nothing good comes from mean criticism. Find your encouraging voice that cheers you on. Whenever you have a win or do something you are proud of, tell yourself, “Yay team! Way to go!” Put that sentiment in your own words and make it your new mantra.

Listen.

Listening is a gift–to ourselves and to others. Men are deeply attracted to women who are gracious listeners; women warm to a man who can hear what they have to say and respond appropriately. Being a good listener starts with hearing your own judgmental voice first and learning to turn the volume down. When you are kinder to yourself, that caring ripples out to others.

Wrap these three rules in a blanket of a positive attitude. Negativity repels love; a positive attitude attracts who and what you want.If you notice negative judgments curling up in your mind, wanting and waiting to spring forth, monitor the words and phrases that would give those thoughts a life.

When you are thinking about how to make a woman fall in love with you, there’s a good chance you are concentrating on what you can do in terms of self-improvement to make yourself more appealing. You should start by taking stock of how engaged you are when you are talking with a woman. Women love being the center of attention and if you are making small talk with a woman, or if you’re in conversation with someone you’ve been dating for awhile, keep the focus on her. Ask her leading questions and listen intently to her answers. Keep your gaze directed at her. Don’t let your eyes wander around the room and never shake your head and nod. Always give her your full attention and she’ll instantly be attracted to you.

Complimenting her the right way is a really important aspect of how to make a woman fall in love with you. Most women are accustomed to men telling them they look great, so you need to stand out. An easy way to do this is to pick one focal point and make a direct comment about it. You could say that you really like the stones in her earrings, or how her belt matches her shoes. Women absolutely adore men who notice the small things so do that as often as you can. She’ll be completely charmed by you take the time to make her feel good about herself.